Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda
Ok, my friends, this is my last post for We’re Not Idiots. As we bid our final farewell, I find myself asking these questions: Would my posts have gained a stronger following if I was more committed to Twitter? Could I have applied for that internship if I was better versed in html coding? Should I have bought the rights to this blog? These questions remain unanswered and, to be honest, their answers don’t matter anyway. What I woulda, coulda, or shoulda done yesterday isn’t going to change where I am today.
Unfortunately, whether I “coulda” gotten that job or not, the end result is still the same because I chose not to apply. Sometimes, we all need to be reminded that honesty is the best policy. Achieving goals in the most efficient manner requires us to speak honestly about our efforts. We must be honest with ourselves.
The problem with “someday” is that it never comes. The first step towards success is to convert bucket lists into action plans, as we cannot be held accountable or rewarded for things we never did. If this fantastical date of “someday” doesn’t exist on a physical calendar, then what are the odds it will have enough traction in our heads? The good thing is that most “somedays” can be set into motion today.
Instead of fantasizing about what might have been, face the truth: you woulda, coulda, shoulda, but you didn’t. My intention is not to discourage long-term desires or promote negative outlooks but rather to direct our focus to the final output and the steps required in getting there. Fairy godmothers don’t grant wishes in real time and companies don’t pay people to “think about” taking action, so what’s the point in mindless wandering? While converting a “woulda” into an “I didn’t” does sort of pinch the skin, it really is a helpful, if not jarring, reminder that achievement comes down to personal commitment and output.
“You shoulda gotten that girl’s number.” Translation: “you didn’t ask for the girl’s number.”
“You woulda qualified for scholarship.” Translation: “you didn’t apply for scholarship.”
While some initial reflection is useful, it isn’t long before “thinking about it” paves a never-ending path to nowhere. It is only on rare occasion that a situation controls us. You may not have the fullest control, but that doesn’t mean you lack the power to influence the outcome. Being honest with ourselves isn’t about beating ourselves up with detrimental self-talk; it’s about making personal decisions to think in output-oriented terms. Collaborate, navigate, drive — don’t just sit there. The most efficient path in achieving our goals requires honest assessments of what we’ve done so far. If you woulda, coulda, shoulda, then you didn’t. But if you face reality, you can.
Posted on May 5, 2012, in Healthy Mind, Motivation, Organization, Productivity, Pysche, Reality and tagged Action, attitudes, motivation, Preparation, reality. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.